I get asked this question a lot, and I have two answers for you.
First of all, the clinical one. If your child’s six months or older, gaining weight as expected, and your doctor says you’re okay to end nighttime feeds, then go ahead and give it a shot. By 8 months of age most babies show signs of readiness to drop nighttime feeds completely. But that doesn’t really answer your question, does it? Because that information is readily available on about a thousand different websites. If that was all you needed to know, you’d know it already.
Chances are, what you’re really asking is, “Why does my baby refuse to give up his night feeds?”
Because if you’d pulled his night feeds and he just accepted it and started sleeping through the night, you wouldn’t be online looking for information about it. You’d either be in bed, enjoying eight hours of blissful, uninterrupted sleep, or you’d be at the playground, telling all the other moms how easily your little guy gave up night feeds. And some parents don’t mind feeding through the night for years, but I would guess if you didn’t mind, you probably wouldn’t be reading this far.
So let’s discuss the real question. Why does your baby continue to wake up at night and demand food if they’re supposedly ready to give up night time feeds?
The reason is actually probably pretty simple. That’s how they get themselves to sleep.
Feeding and/or nursing to sleep is just about the biggest sleep prop I see as a sleep consultant. People don’t usually think of it as a “sleep prop” because of how natural and necessary it is. They tend to associate the term with pacifiers, mobiles and crib aquariums. But a sleep prop is really anything external that your baby relies on in order to get to sleep.
So if you’re still feeding your baby to sleep at bedtime and through out the night, chances are, that’s where you need to make some changes.
“But I’m not!” I can hear you saying. “I put him to bed while he’s still awake, and he falls asleep independently! No props, no nothing! But he still wakes up three times a night looking to eat!”
Although it’s a less common scenario, I do see this fairly often. Mom is doing everything right at bedtime, but is still feeding baby to sleep when they wake up in the night.
Some babies are just habitual nighttime eaters. It’s not that they’re hungry, or in need of calories. They’ve just managed to disassociate bedtime sleep with waking in the night, and if Mom’s still willing to give up some breast milk in the night, well then, so much the better!
There is another main concern with night feeding other than disrupting sleep. Because baby is getting these additional calories at night, he won’t eat as much in the day and if he doesn’t eat more during the day, he will need it at night. So, sometimes a baby really does feel hungry in the night but it doesn’t mean he can’t go all night without a feeding. It simply means he needs to adjust how much he’s eating in the daytime hours. As part of my Night-weaning Sleep Plans, I help form a feeding schedule specific to baby’s needs that will help him do this gently.
The sooner your little one learns independent sleep skills, the sooner he’ll be sleeping through the night. That’s great news for you and your partner, but it’s even better news for baby! More uninterrupted sleep means baby’s mind and body get more of those glorious restorative effects that take place during the night, making for a happier, healthier tomorrow!
Are you looking to wean your baby off night feeds but need a little direction? I can help. Message or email me info@resteddarlings.com and we can get you on track in no time.
Your friendly and faithful sleep consultant,
Daniella
